Is Trust a By Product of Self Love?

This statement by Jordan struck me like a ton of bricks.

Trust

It's the statement of description Jordan chose for this month's astrology article in "Yoga Journal."

I have been told that I am a trusting person, to a fault. I give it away before it's earned.

I have found myself in some precarious situations over the years as a result of this wrinkle in my personality.

So, I ask myself,

"What is it to trust?"

"Who get's it? Who doesn't?"

Trust is one of the five Vital elements of a healthy relationship,

Love, Honesty, Trust, Communication, Connection

But, in reviewing these "Five Elements," I found that one of the most important factors to a successful, loving relationship was missing.

"Self Love" shouldn't it be the first?

In order to have a healthy, trusting, loving relationship with another human being, you must first learn to love yourself. Self-love creates a stronger capacity to love others. It opens you up to experiencing love without fear.

Without self-love, all the other elements suffer.

How can you be honest with another human, when you are not being honest with yourself?

Ahh. This makes sense.

When someone is dishonest, they are not loving themselves, so they hurt the ones who love them.

They lash out at their very own wrinkle, but their hurt is so deep they don't realize that it is the pain that drives them, not the other person.

True Freedom in a relationship comes from the power of honesty.

So, when you love yourself first, you then become fully capable of loving another and find yourself in a healthy relationship where you can feel free and safe to not only BE an honest person, but, to be able to Trust an Honest person as well.

If you don't think you know what true love is or what it feels like because the Trust you have so easily given out in the past has been taken advantage of, know this, when you are there, in a healthy relationship, who you are becomes enhanced, not squashed. Everything around you feels safe, supported, FREE, you simply feel loved.

What a beautiful space, to be, feel, and know you are loved.

Namaste,

Kathleen